There, I said it

Common Loon

You see that beautiful bird? That’s a loon. And why is this awesome bird (check out those eyes!) on my website? Because I don’t give a rat’s ass what you call me. Go ahead call me a loon, I’ve even said it myself “I’m such a loon.” The very first time I was in a psych hospital (back in the old days when they weren’t little tiny wards stuck into the depths of a “regular” hospital), I called my dad to tell him where I was and he said “Oh, you’re in the loony bin. I’ve been there.” People gasped when I told them, they couldn’t understand how my dad could be so callous. Well I could, that’s just my dad. Doesn’t mean he loved me any less. Words are just words, nothing more. Oh I know, some people are more sensitive to them than others, and I apologize to those of you who might find this post offensive…no, wait, oops I take that back, remember the disclaimer at the top of the post or the one you clicked on to get to this site? Anyway, maybe it’s because I’ve survived so much that it just takes a hell of a lot to offend me. Child abuse is offensive, domestic violence is offensive, genocide is offensive…get my drift?

When you were little, did you learn this the first time someone called you a name and you ran home crying? ‘Sticks and stones may break my bones but words shall never hurt me.’ Words are amazing things. They can be hurtful, loving, scathing, uplifting, encouraging, or demoralizing. I am very careful about how I use my words when speaking to someone, but I honestly don’t care what anyone says to me. I choose not to allow words to cause pain.

The following are for the word ‘crazy’ from the Merriam-Webster Thesaurus website. Some of these are just downright silly.

Synonyms balmy, barmy [chiefly British], bats, batty, bedlam, bonkers, brainsick, bughouse [slang], certifiable, crackbrained, cracked, crackers, crackpot, cranky [dialect], crazed, crazy, cuckoo, daffy, daft, demented, deranged, fruity [slang], gaga, haywire, kooky (also kookie), loco [slang], loony (also looney), loony tunes (or looney tunes), lunatic, mad, maniacal (also maniac), mental, meshuga (or meshugge also meshugah or meshuggah), moonstruck, non compos mentis, nuts, nutty, psycho, psychotic, scatty [chiefly British], screwy, unbalanced, unhinged, unsound, wacko (also whacko), wacky (also whacky), wud [chiefly Scottish]

 

In addition to many of these, I’ve been called quite a few other choice words by my ex-husband, which hurt a lot less than anything else he did. Later on in life when I was dating, my mother warned me about dating non-Jews. I was shocked, since we were “cultural” Jews, not religious at all, I didn’t understand why it mattered. She said “In the heat of an argument, they might call you a kike.” My response? “Give me a break, I’ve been called worse.” Since many people have called me a variety of unpleasant names, I must apparently evoke strong emotions. So you see, I’d rather look at it as the power I have over others, not the power their simple words have over me.

2 thoughts on “There, I said it

  1. I am of the opinion that my family and close friends can say what they want to me. I know that they love me. I do take offence when someone who doesn't know me or hasn't been around me much (extended family and people I may have friended on FB) think because I have a Mental Illness that it's OK to generalise about who they THINK I am.

    By the way.. I think that Duck is possessed by something not wholly of this world :o)

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